All of my life I have been looking for something "better". I think everyone does. At first, it was better toys, then competing better at sports, wanting better boyfriends, getting better grades, looking for a better place to live, moving on to a better job, better pay, eating better, better quality of life, better this, better that, and in the last few years looking for better ways to spend my time.
It's funny, thinking back on it. If I review this blog, I began it when I first had my kiddos (stick with me here, it will all tie together in a minute). This blog was an effort to get information to the masses without having to retell stories multiple times since my "mommy brain" often times forgot key details from one telling to the next. I would spend one night per week, after the kids went to bed, updating the blog. It was simple and easy and effective. And then it happened. A friend whom I love dearly (and shall remain nameless but lives in Washington and has a dog who's name rhymes with Kadabby) introduced me to this neat new website called Facebook. At first, I was only on it to get to see her pictures but I soon realized the potential of being able to communicate with multiple friends and family the same way I did on my blog and ALSO have the added bonus of seeing their posts as well. It seemed, at the time, to be a win-win situation. So although I continued to sparingly post to my blog (for those few non-Facebookers), my primary mode of mass communication became Facebook. It just seemed "better" (tied in, see where I was going?).
This worked out better for me for more than a year. And then, well... it just wasn't. I'll admit I enjoyed seeing everyone's happenings and goings-on, but somewhere along the line, I began to realize that for some, it's the new form of keeping up with the Jones'. Think:"I've got 400 friends, how many does ___ have?". And then some people were fishing for information on one another and passing on things they'd read to others without really conversing. So I would periodically go through and weed out the random on-lookers who weren't really into being friends so much as being spies or shadows. I mean really, I have fond memories of ex-coworkers and can appreciate the girl who trims my hair, but do they need to know where I have gone on vacation? And do I need to see pictures of their dog? No, I don't. So my compromise was to keep my "friends" list under 100 people if possible. Since over 50 of them were actually family, it wasn't as big of a list as it seems. That seemed to spare me from being too much of a part of rumor mills. It seemed "better" to limit myself to only conversing with family and folks I saw on a regular basis, who knew me and my kids socially and who cared about my post and would eventually talk to me about it in person.
And then this June, I went back and looked through my blog again. It had been over 6 months since I updated the blog and it hit me - like a ton of diapers and clocks dropped on my head. Facebook wasn't really a better use of my time. In fact, it was a HUGE waste of my time. I would wake up in the morning and check to see what had happened since going to bed. I would check my phone periodically throughout the day for people's updates and to tell anyone interested where I found a really good sandwich shop. Then at night I would check it again before going to bed. All in all, a over an hour must have been spent on Facebook every day. Think about that. 1 hour per day times 8 days means I was losing almost a full workday every week (almost 2 months a year) just trying to keep the masses and myself updated. Now don't get me wrong. There were a lot of advantages to Facebook. My mom-friends arranged our playdates on a group site. My bunco group plans our meet-ups there too. I could hear about friends in need and try to help out. I could send pictures to all of my family that live in other states (now spread in every state on the west coast). There were some nice advantages to participating in the Facebook community, but when it came right down to it, was it a "better" use of my time? I am convinced that it was not.
So I quit. Just like that. In the very definition of cold-turkey. It took me 2 hours to delete all of my pictures and friends and I even went back and removed posts in the previous 4 months just in case someone were to think "hey, she's still on here, look, she just posted 2 weeks ago" and feel rejected about being un-friend-ed. For a few days, I found myself looking at my phone periodically through the day and realized just how overwhelming it had become in my schedule. This only served to reinforce how correct my decision was to quit. I vowed to update the blog for the last 6 months, which is how you find me here now. I will try to be more vigilant about loading pictures for my loved ones in Alaska, Washington, Oregon, Arizona, California, Utah and Idaho who are genuinely interested in what we've been up to. Feel free to email me to remind me if I forget to update here. Or better yet, call or come visit. But if I don't update this blog very often, please be understanding and realize I am hopefully off somewhere, with something better to do.